Give Her a Period Shower

Her siblings and I decided to throw her a surprise ‘Period Shower’. We are expecting Caly’s first menstrual cycle anytime. Cara didn’t have a period shower before she had hers, but she and I and Chace had a series of puberty lessons for both genders. Just like I did for Cara, I also approached a few select people to help, guide, and provide moral support for Caly when the time comes. I know it’s funny to some, and I probably embarrassed the guys I approached, but I’ve long believed it’s necessary to open a conversation about menarche and menstruation and push all genders to get educated on the topic.

I’m fortunate that Caly’s junior high school male pastor has done a discussion about the topic before. I don’t know how extensive the discussion was with his wife who also happens to be his partner in the junior high ministry and the camp volunteers, but I do feel a sense of relief and confidence knowing that I have an informed and a loving support system for Caly. You should read our text exchange! Lol!

Menstruation has always been a taboo subject even in the western world. It’s unfortunate that we are teaching our girls to be secretly discreet about their period and to hide their menstrual discomfort. When we do this, girls are less likely to report their symptoms and are even less likely to seek medical intervention. They are likely to suffer in silence than take advantage of available resources and remedies.

Period Pain: Why do so many women suffer from menstrual cramps in silence?

A Bias Against Women in the Treatment of Pain

Tackling the Taboo of Menstruation

Discussing menstruation openly shouldn’t be a taboo thing. Especially so, if we believed that women’s healthcare is a basic human right. In fact, I will strongly argue that this isn’t just a woman’s issue, but a universal conversation. If all of us are able to understand the conditions that afflict a female body, then maybe our outlook and our conversational demeanor on healthcare and gender parity will change from polarizing identity politics to a multiparty and diversely participative policy-making process that’s rich in compassion, equality, and justice that doesn’t discriminate. Maybe, we’ll stop stigmatizing women and insulting their being with comments like, “It’s that time of the month for her,” or “She’s PMS’ng,” in reference to certain moods. Which by the way, when a man exhibits a mood swing, he’s less likely seen in a bad or weak light.

Period-shaming and Menstrual Stigmas

Nearly half of women have experienced ‘period shaming’

If we are to raise boys and girls who value humanity and equal respect, we have to rethink our positions on what should comprise a taboo subject. It’s not healthy that women are embarrassed about having periods or talking about menses. It’s an abomination that nearly half of the female group have been period-shamed. And if we are to raise girls who value their overall wellness, women who are confident and strong, we have to have a comfortable conversation about a health topic that affects them.

Here’s the thing, there is so much about menstruation that all genders and most women aren’t aware of. Let’s not encourage our girls and the women to stay silent about periods. Menstruation is not a hygiene matter. It’s a health and a medical matter.

Overview of Menstrual Disorders

Menstruation in Girls and Adolescents: Using the Menstrual Cycle as a Vital Sign

Premenstrual Syndrome

Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)

Menstrual Headaches


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